Fitting In

There can be huge pressure to “fit in” in adolescence. By that, we mean the stuff that makes you feel like you need to be a certain way in order to belong. You might feel like everything from the clothes you wear, the music you listen to, the stuff you like to do after school, your grades, the people you hang out with or date – even the way you walk and talk – all slot you into a certain category. Sometimes young people don’t want to be categorized or feel like they don’t belong anywhere. This can create a lot of stress for people, tire them out, confuse them or make them feel down.

Everyone experiences these pressures at one time or another. In this section, we want to take some of the weight off by looking at the pressure to fit in that teen guys experience. We’ll do some digging into what acceptance and belonging are. We’ll also offer some info on staying true to yourself around your friends, and tools for how to stop being so hard on yourself.

The Rules… and How to Break Them

Being a guy comes with certain expectations right? What if it didn’t have to?

Peer pressure

Your friends can influence you in all sorts of ways: the way they act, dress, and treat each other. How does peer pressure impact your life?

Feeling “different”

Feeling out of step with your world is tough, but it can have rewards: Appreciate your strength and unique style.


How you feel about yourself changes every day, sometimes by the hour. Find out how to get balance and gain perspective.

Stay True to Yourself

Being authentic is the best way to have close, connected friendships. Stay true to yourself, even if it feels like the riskiest thing to do.


Check out additional resources on friendship, peer pressure, self-esteem and more.

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